Do you look at yourself in the mirror? I don’t mean the, “hey there good looking, you are good enough, strong enough, and gosh darn it people like you” kind of looking. I mean the tough, critical, honest kind of looking. Not at our bodies, but at who we really are. Do you reflect on your actions, your choices, and your decisions? Do you ever take what someone has said to you and actually, truthfully, give it some consideration?
We are living in a world full of messages meant to build ourselves up and to help us find our self worth and confidence. I am not trying to take away from that at all, I believe it is equally important. I also believe that we do it at the risk of disregarding the ownership of our own bull shit. We are becoming blamers. Entitled, stubborn, selfish, narcissistic fools who refuse to admit when we have screwed up. I think there is a fine balance that must be achieved in being self critical, as well as at the same time being gentle with ourselves. Nobody is perfect, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t always room for improvement. Try and reflect next time you are challenged by someone else. Sit with the comments they have made about your character. Even if it was said out of anger, or in a hurtful, less mature way, and truly allow yourself to consider what truth might be underneath all the empty words. Perhaps it’s totally off base, but there is also the chance we may discover something new about ourselves. Perhaps this information can help guide us further into growth.
Remember that it is in our self awareness and mindfulness that we give ourselves choices. It is in these choices where we can grow and practice changing our old patterns to improve all of our relationships in life. I find that it is in this awareness of ourselves that choices allow us to build our self confidence. We are not powerless when our actions are based on a choice. Making new, mindful choices will produce a different reality. Maybe changing ourselves for the better lies simply in having more awareness.
Food for thought….